Targeted: Winning Against Relational Aggression In Real Life (Digital Download / PDF eBook only)

That’s relational aggression at it’s finest, and this book gives you the language to name it, the research to prove it, and the roadmap to survive it.

Targeted is the book for people who are tired of being told to “just let it go,” “kill them with kindness,” or “not take it so personally.”

It’s for the highly empathic, the neurodivergent, the trauma-shaped, and everyone who feels and notices “too much” to fit in – because those are exactly the people this kind of harm is built to target.

This book doesn’t ask why you’re “too sensitive.” It asks the harder, truer question – Why was someone ever counting on that in the first place?

And the best part? None of it softens the truth of your experience or the impact that the repeated behaviour had (or is having) on your ongoing mental well-being.

Written by Dee Baker and grounded in the research of Judith Herman, Pete Walker, Bessel van der Kolk, Stephen Porges, and the clinicians who named complex trauma before the rest of the world caught up, Targeted walks you through relational aggression at every age and in every arena where it hides – childhood friend groups, teenage group chats, workplaces, families, romantic relationships, and caregiving dynamics you couldn’t just walk away from.

You won’t find vague affirmations here, but you will find:

• The clinical definition of relational aggression, explained plainly, so you finally have a name for what happened
• A no-softening look at the aggressor – what’s actually driving the behaviour, at every life stage, without excusing it
• What it does to your nervous system, backed by neuroscience, so you understand your hypervigilance as an adaptation, not a flaw
• The Deromanticization Protocol, a research-based tool for finally seeing someone clearly – even someone you love
• A dual-track reflection system in every chapter, so this book works whether you lived it or you’re standing beside someone who did
• Documentation guidance built for real-world use, whether you’re processing privately or building a record for HR, school, or legal purposes

The truth? You’re not broken, and if you’re here, there’s a very good chance you were never the problem either…

By the final chapters, Targeted moves from validation into transformation — grief work, self-compassion, radical acceptance, and the specific, earned kind of post-traumatic growth reserved for people who finally understand what they survived and why.

This isn’t a book that pities you. It’s a book that arms you.

If you’ve spent years being told you’re imagining things, this is the moment that stops.

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Digital Download / PDF Length: 326 pages including cited sources, clinical term explanations, and journal prompts. Clinical enough for the therapist recommending it to a client. Personal enough for the reader who needed it ten years ago.

Get your copy today — because the person using relational aggression in your life has already benefited from your self-doubt for long enough.